Stop? Did I just tell you to stop? Haha yes. Just for a few minutes though. I want you to read this post. It was written for me, by me to keep myself motivated.
My TYBCOM exams ended last week and I found myself worrying about my future. I wondered and I still wonder about what my next step should be. A job perhaps? Or a course? Or masters degree? Or CA? Endless possibilities.
Since I couldn’t put down my foot on one thing, I decided that I needed to introspect. I had days to think about life. These remaining days of April are now “Me-Days” for me. And while I did analyse myself, I realised a lot of stuff about myself that was… How do I put it? Not so confident.
And this is where I said to myself: STOP!
● Stop being scared.
We are scared by so many things. But you know what? We’ll make it. First days of kindergarten; we probably cried and threw a fit or something. But we made it. High school; Where people tend to find faults in everything? Or when you’re the new student in the class and you know no one? Ah ha, made it. And the most recent one in my life: My first ever GDPI. It was scheduled right after I applied to that college. I was so nervous, all I did was google ‘How to crack interviews’ instead of studying for my exams. And you know what? I totally enjoyed that gdpi. I know there were some things I probably shouldn’t have said or should have acted in a different manner. But I did crack it. And that feeling… totally amazing! Being scared is natural and inevitable but think… right after you go through whatever scared you, you will gain some confidence and experience and that is what you should look forward to.
●Stop being a victim.
In my childhood days we were a group of friends. And I don’t know what happened but everyone stopped talking to me. I went home with tears in my eyes. I complained to my mom about it. I thought about it all the time. Though after a few weeks we became friends again(that train is totally off the tracks now as in we don’t talk anymore). My point here is, when this sort of stuff happens to you, you tend to think ‘This is my fault’, ‘I am not nice’ etc etc. Don’t do that. Learn from it. This is like an opportunity for you to make yourself stronger and less vulnerable. So the people at work boycott you? Let them. You’re a strong, independent person. Don’t put yourself down. Keep on developing yourself. Isn’t it true that some people dislike you because you have those qualities they don’t? ☺
●Stop thinking that you don’t matter.
You matter to your family, friends and those people who matter to you. My mother knows when something is wrong and she’ll talk it out with me.
Try not talking to your best friend for few weeks. She’ll definitely barge into your house with blazing guns and ask you, “Who needs to be shot?” Lol, okay they won’t do something that drastic but they’d definitely ask you what’s wrong and help you.
And if a person does not care about you? You respect them and they don’t? Maybe you could try to find out if you did something wrong. But if you didn’t, then (this might sound juvenile) you need to stop caring about them too. Really, why should we waste our time thinking about shitty people when we have so many other things to do in life?
●Stop thinking about your confidence.
Sometimes I crib about how I don’t look so confident. But confidence comes with experience and experience comes when you do things that scare you. So yeah, go out. Go to a theatre and watch a movie alone. Go to a restaurant alone. Write a story and post it without worrying about grammar. And sometimes faking confidence works too. Fake it till you make it. Do an internship. Do everything.
And some other things that I have in my STOP! List-
●Stop being lazy
●Stop thinking bad about your body/face/figure. (Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.)
●Stop being negative
●Stop over analysing everything and anything.
●(Specially for me)Stop thinking about what others will think about you. (I tend to think about it in real negative way. Strangers’ opinions matter only when you have given them the option to give you feedbacks.)
Well, these are some of my STOP things. Thanks for stopping by. 😆
And do comment. I care about grammar and english way too much.